Tuesday, May 3, 2011

A Note To You The Reader...

I so appriciate you, the reader, that you are reading my blog. I amazed at the traffic going through here. If you wouldn't mind sharing this with people, I would love that. I want to get the word out, and maybe help those who are in abusive situations know THEY ARE NOT ALONE.

There is a Universal need to be loved.

If your going through abuse, or have been through abuse, I hope that some of the things I write here helps you. You are one of the reasons I am writing this. The other reason is I need to analize what happened to me and work through it however I can. If it helps someone, I am just grateful for the chance I have to do it.

I wish I could look any one of you  ( that are going through abuse)squarely in the face and tell you its ok, that there is hope. But you HAVE to be proactive. This is your life and no one should tell you how to live it,(That goes for ANYONE...not just everyone living with abuse) or beat you into submission. If you get help and if you get out things CAN change. Its a HUGE step, but your life can  have meaning and you can know love (Even self love) if you give yourself the respect you deserve. You are the only person who can truly do that.

You may think "Well, your strong, I'm not".

 I did not feel strong at the time, (In fact, I felt terrified and completely worthless) but looking back, I see that I was stronger than I thought I was...In the end its all about ACTION. If you do not condone abuse and violence, If you have children...your children won't either. The same goes for the opposite. Would you want your beautiful children to be the abused? To be an abuser? You stay in an abusive home your child may grow up as one or the other because it is ALL THEY KNOW.

God, (Or whoever your higher power is) your loving father loves you and would never want one of his beautiful daughters (or sons) demeaned and cut down. He would want the light in your eyes to be bright,and your self esteme to be intact,not trampled on.

Therefore a new cycle starts. One that is up to YOU. One that BREAKS that cycle of violence. One that CHALLENGES the abuse. One that sais,I will not sit still, I will stand up, for me, for my children, and future generations.


I especially have a  special message for Mothers in abusive relationships...Get out while your children are young. I beg you. The scars your children will have will never heal if you don't, and they may become abusers themselves if you don't STOP the  cycle now. I know, its easy for me to say, I'm not in it, (Though I was) but your children are stuck in it. No matter how stuck you think you are, you AREN'T.

Even though I don't know you, I have a special place in my heart for you.

There are places you can go for help.

Here is one...http://www.thehotline.org/

PLEASE CALL, do SOMETHING. You are not alone! Get the help you need!