Wednesday, August 16, 2017

My Daughter (Who is overseas in a Muslim country) And a little Muslim Boy Who Has Been Ravaged By War: Thoughts Regarding Charlottesville (printed with her permission)

From my daughter who is overseas... I am so proud of the writer she is becoming... and what she stands for.

"Some of my many thoughts regarding Charlottesville*

Last month, when I was traveling through Malaysia (a Muslim majority country), I met a restaurant owner with a 7 year old son, and both wanted to practice their English with me. They were so kind; the father kept asking me questions about my travels and told me that he hoped to travel someday too. And the son had just gotten a good grade on an English test and told me that it was his favorite subject, moreso than even his own Malay language classes.

After a while, I needed to leave and asked them if they had any questions for me. I then told them that I was an American and asked the little boy if he had any questions about America, "as long as it's not about Donald Trump," I said to his father, while laughing it off.

The second I mentioned Trump's name, the little boy panicked. He ran to his father's side and started hyperventilating. "Donald Trump wants to kill me!" he said. "Donald Trump wants to kill my country. What did we do?" Even the father had nothing to say as his son cried. Only later did he tell me that they were refugees from Yemen, a country that suffered 70 United States airstrikes in one month, under Trump's command.

I couldn't do anything. I was so shocked that I couldn't do anything but cry with the little boy for the first few minutes. Then I put my hands on the boy's shoulders and said, "I want you to listen to me. There are good people and bad people in every country. There are people who are so miserable that they want to hurt people, and that's what Donald Trump is. But the good people, they won't let anything happen to you. They love you and want you to be safe." The boy seemed unconvinced and I couldn't blame him. I couldn't even convince myself.

Because now, I look back to that little boy and all I can think is, "Was that a lie?" Would the "good people" of my country care about that little boy? He was (1) Muslim, (2) non-white, and (3) poor. Would my neighbors, who are polite, God bless them, but "just don't want to get involved in politics" see someone like him as worth protecting? Where is the line drawn? What if he was Jewish and saw the Neo-Nazis walking up and down our streets?

What's worth protecting now?

My friends, in the wake of Charlottesville, we no longer have the option of remaining neutral in American politics. The whole world is watching us, including the children who are learning what America stands for. On our own soil, Mr. Trump has turned our country into a battleground between Nazism and those who fight against Nazism, by equating the two as comparable evils. And as always, when fighting against pure evil, there cannot be a middle ground.

Our country is having an identity crisis right before our eyes. So now is our time to decide what our country truly stands for. We have to remember who we have to protect.

The State Of America

This is sobering.

EVERYONE who thinks that the Nazis aren't trying to organize here in America (And everyone outside of America) needs to watch this. This is, up close and personal, the state of America.

One Nazi said that this was the biggest "nationalist" (Might as well say it RACIST) rally in over 2 decades.

THIS is what we are REALLY dealing with. (My husband has said he thinks they are organizing even before this happened, and I think hes right.)

What this Nazi man is trying to justify... someone ramming a car into a crowd saying "The right wants violence and that they are only meeting the demand" (With him showing all of his guns and a knife to the journalist telling her what the nazis are planning to do) is absolutely horrifying and just a peek into a seriously demented state of mind.

I am sorry, I have heard others say we need to just "talk to them" This journalist did, and what she found was terifying. We need to make sure these people NEVER do this again. Protest is fine, but these people are not just protesting, their intention is to incite violence and promote fear in the American public.

This is DEEPLY troubling. Some one died here. We need to be actively looking for ways to make sure this doesn't happen again... (In my minds the police being there could have stopped this!) It should NOT celebrated by these deeply twisted people as if its some kind of Victory.

What the HELL America????

Video below:

Friday, August 11, 2017

Owned By A Cat (Ode To Jezabel)

Woke up at 2 or so with thoughts in my head about Jezabel, my sweet cat who died last month) I've been waking up around 2 or 3 am every morning with memories of her.  I am collecting them and have started writing about her. I imagine I am ready to write her story, though I will do it slowly. They are happy memories, though I imagine writing about the end is going to be excruciating.

I've never written a poem (if that's what this is...) and not sure this is finished...but here it is.
Kevin O'Conner I'd love your thoughts on this...

Hilariously, a couple of the stanzas came about because of Game Of Thrones... (See if you can figure out which lines they are) Thank you G.O.T. for helping me write my poem,...HAHA! 

Owned By A Cat

(Ode To Jezabel)

Young kitten
So soft, so sweet
Mewing and kneading
Your soft little paw in my hand
Begging for food
Kneading love

Strong cat
walking, stalking as you do
Invisible tiger in the grass
"You don’t see me"
But I do

Sitting in the sun as if you own it
Sharpening claws on trees as if you own them
Sharpening claws on me.

I am smitten,
Owned by a cat 
Whose “eye kisses” make my day
Just a little more sweet.

The blanket is not mine
My legs are not mine
She sleeps between them
And insists on hogging the bed
Until the bed is not mine.

I am in love with a creature
Who wakes me with hairballs
Running around the house at night
Attacker of toilet paper rolls and socks

A tiny dragon slaying mice
Who pounces on spiders
And pulls birds from the sky
To lay them at my feet
small gifts of death from a queen
Surveyor of her kingdom

And now she lies in my arms
She who was so majestic
And hilarious
And still loved
"Help me" in her eyes
Hardly breathing, frail, and begging for relief
Her soft little paw in my hand

I will release her

Though it will haunt me all my life

Monday, July 24, 2017

Jezabel and Sebastion: never parted ever again.

My cat Jezabel, died 3 weeks ago. I've been too heartbroken to post anything for the last weeks. She and Sebastion were best friends. This picture was when Buggy was sick (his nickname was buggy...he was relentless and would bug you until you gave him your undivided attention. The sweetest thing was when he would stick his little muzzle in your hand and keep nuzzling till you paid attention to him..

I'm sure I'll be writing about her soon and  what a sweet, amazing cat she was. This is what I wrote when Buggy (Sebastion) our dog (and her best friend) died. (The rest about Sebastion is on the right hand side in 2011.)

Monday, June 19, 2017

The Best Response I Have EVER heard On The Subject Of Modesty (from a GUY with daughters on Twitter who posted it and it went VIRAL)

The other day I went to my blog and found some man had posted on a blog I wrote about how I almost committed suicide at 16 because my abusive father had "forgotten" my birthday. (I found out later it was on purpose.) Anyway,  the man on my blog posted about how I dressed like a "whore" and that "I shouldn't dye my hair" or wear make up  (hilariously, he was looking at my picture on here where I dressed up like a fairy...not that it matters,and WHY did he post what he did on my blog about suicide? It had nothing to do with it, BUT with that said... I will dress however the hell I wish to wear and if any man messes with me on it, (or freaking touches me) they will get their ass kicked, or handed to them.) No man will EVER tell me how to dress. This is in response to the idiot who was calling me a "little one"  (You wanna bet? This amazon could whip your ass!) And telling me to "Come back to God" (I already know who he is, I had a near death experience at 16 and the nature of God is LOVE, not the B.S. coming out of your mouth.)

Today this was on Facebook, and it is beautiful.

This is the best thing I've ever heard a guy say on the debate about modesty. I think EVERYONE needs to read this. SERIOUSLY. (2) (he's gay,(he also has daughters) and he brings up some seriously incredible points that are really, just common sense.)

"The main premise of "modesty" culture is that women need to dress in a way that doesn't provoke sexual response in men. Which is insane.
I think it is absolutely crazy that a man can look at a woman and say "I think you should wear something else, because seeing your skin
makes me feel aroused. And that arousal is strong and I haven't learned how to appropriately manage it. So please change your clothes."
This is BONKERS. Especially when men then start to claim that a woman is *worth* more if they dress a certain way. As if covering flesh
somehow earns a woman value, all because it doesn't evoke a sexual response in men. And then, if a woman DOESN'T do this?
Well now a man has the "right" to chastise a woman, call her names, say she is slutty and wicked. All because *he* is having a sexual response!
Newsflash: women's worth is STATIC. It is inviolable. It doesn't change with what she does or doesn't wear. It doesn't change with sex.
And a man's sexuality is HIS OWN RESPONSIBILITY.
Wanna known I know this? It's because in my whole life I have never told another man how to dress even though a man's body arouses me.
 I have never told a man he should put his shirt on on a hot day when he is on a summer run. I have never demanded modesty from a guy.
 I have never expected men to stop wearing loose basketball shorts just because they might be revealing to me and turn me on.
 In fact, I have had, my entire life, been in situations where men take ALL THEIR CLOTHES OFF RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME (locker rooms, etc.).
And guess what? Even though I have felt aroused, I have never EVER blamed another man for that arousal. My arousal is about ME.Not him.
 I have never assaulted another man for this. I have never raped another man for this. I have never claimed a man was "asking for it."
A person's worth is static, inviolable, and begins the day they are born as a baby until the day they die. Clothes do not change this.
 And a man's arousal is HIS OWN DAMN RESPONSIBILITY. It is NOT the responsibility of the body that evoke's that arousal. Ever.
Straight men blaming women for their own sexual responses degrades women. And it dis empowers men. It excuses them from taking ownership of their own bodies. And it allows them to build fury towards what they covet. It's dangerous. It leads to assault. It IS rape culture.
My four daughters deserve better than this. They deserve to be safe. They deserve to wear what feels good to them on a summer day.
And they deserve to relish knowing that they are valuable no matter WHAT they wear. (You know, the same message men get from birth on!)"

Thank you Josh, from women EVERYWHERE. 

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Thursday, May 11, 2017

"What The Last Nuremberg Prosecutor Alive Wants The World To Know"

This is Benjamin Ferencz 

Powerful stuff.

What a brave and sunny soul, despite everything he has seen.

His philosophy is pretty much the same philosophy that I believe.

(check out the links on the side much good information!)

Saturday, May 6, 2017

Don't Let Trump Dump "Let Girls Learn" In The U.S And All Over The World

Please sign this petition I wrote!

I had heard that Trump is getting rid of Michelle Obama's "Let Girls' Learn" initiative and I had to do something.
Little did I know when I thought about this that my daughter, who is traveling the world and is trying to make a difference overseas might not be able to work through the Peace Corp helping women gain an education that is so vitally needed.
It might be taken away.
My daughter told me today that the volunteer work she would have would be through "Let Girls Learn" initiative.  If "Let Girls Learn" is taken away she won't be able to help. Her volunteer work as an educator for girls won't be allowed.
This is the same initiative that Malala Yousafzai went to the White house for after being shot in the head for the simple reason that she wanted to go to school and learn.
She has worked so hard for women's rights, and so has my daughter.
I am VERY passionate about women's rights.
Any time women are educated, things get better.
An excerpt from the L.A times article below : 
"CNN is reporting that the Trump administration is planning to end "Let Girls Learn," a signature Michelle Obama program. 
The White House has denied that this is the case.
Obama started the program in 2015 as "a holistic approach to change the perception of the value of girls at the individual, community and institutional levels," according to its website. The intergovernmental initiative engaged partners such as the Peace Corps to help girls across the globe access education, healthcare and other resources.
According to CNN, some aspects of the program will still exist, but not under the auspices and name of Let Girls Learn.
CNN posted an email Peace Corps acting director Sheila Crowley sent to employees. "We will not continue to use the 'Let Girls Learn' brand or maintain a stand-alone program," she wrote. 
 Asked to confirm the fate of Let Girls Learn, Stephanie Grisham, Melania Trump's communications director, said in an email, "The First Lady looks forward to outlining her agenda in the near future." The White House later told CNN that there would be no changes to Let Girls Learn.
Sen. Jeanne Shaheen (D-N.H.), meanwhile, announced plans to introduce the Keeping Girls in School Act to “ensure that the United States remains committed to adolescent girls as a critical demographic in the growth of every nation, with a specific focus on developing nations."
The branding — not just the programming — was key to the program's effectiveness, said Tina Tschen, Michelle Obama's former chief of staff. "With a branded campaign, we were able to elevate all of the programming from various agencies," Tchen said. "You can create a whole that is greater than the sum of its parts by pulling all of those initiatives together and by highlighting them."
The name, she said, enabled the Peace Corps to raise $3 million in funding for Let Girls Learn in a year and a half.
Tschen said that Obama had been paying close attention to issues surrounding the education of girls. But "the big spark that really lit the flame," she said was a visit that Malala Yousafzai made to the White House."
Please sign this petition to MAKE SURE Trump doesn't dump this important initiative.
Lets make sure Trump is kept accountable!
This is for our girls and women.
Not only in our country, but all over the world!